Tuesday, October 30, 2012

Relationship Filters


The main things I use to judge someone “unattractive” is if they openly do not accept of as well as if they are unwilling to learn in general. These two filters can easily be considered “cognitive cue” filters. This is because the two of them are psychological values: One must be willing to be tolerant and accepting of new views, and one must be willing to learn, in order for either to actually be possible.

Duck’s theory makes a great amount of sense to me, personally. We judge our compatibility with someone based on their age, appearance, location, how they act, how they treat others, and how well they adapt to different situations. The first three are sociological, or incidental, the next is pre-interaction, the next is interaction, and the final being cognitive. The theory makes complete sense, as we won’t be willing to live with someone who is conflicting too heavily on those wavelengths, although we might be willing to compromise on the location and appearance if the other three are synchronized well enough.

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