I think “Competitive Symmetry” would be the most difficult
to change. This is simply because, when both parties want the power and
control, it’s sometimes difficult to alter that desire. With “Rigid Complementary ”
it can be changed to be less rigid, thus simply being “ complementary,”
whereas, in “Submissive Symmetry,” one party can just make a unanimous decision
to finally end whatever arguments or exchanges they may find themselves in.
On the same thing, “competitive symmetry” would be damaging
to both individuals’ self-esteem. This is because the two are vying for a
controlling position. If, in a more personal relationship, neither party
obtains the controlling position, they may feel slighted by their partner, not
giving them the control they feel they deserve. “Rigid complementary may
only end up being damaging to the one-down person, while “submissive symmetry” wouldn't be very damaging to either, as only their view of their partner would
be altered.
Hi Chris,
ReplyDeleteMy post was pretty similar to yours as well. I can see how that having one person being an up role while the other one is a down role can truly damage a relationship and to a person's self esteem. But competitive symmetry, where the two individuals are constantly competing becomes exhausting and harmful. I can remember competing with another coworker at work and eventually it tore down my own personality into some kind of monster. These patterns can alter a person's attitude, personality, and self esteem altogether.